I may have been foolish, harsh or too arrogant in my responses, but I believe that I made sense. Here are the screenshots of our conversation:
My mother told me to let it go, but I kept on answering back. I don't know. I told my Mom, sometimes, you need to make people learn from their mistakes, and put them in their right places. But this person..... wow! It's like he has this checklist in his head on what I should've done. He was teaching me what to do!
When I saw his pictures on Instagram, it became clear to me. This is a narcissistic person who likes everything to go according to his whims. He's a selfie addict who poses like a model from a fashion magazine but fails miserably.
Yes, I am now a part of the "patola" group. Patola, beki speak as in "mapagpatol" or someone who gets affected by negativity and lashes out to defend herself. I think I should've handled it differently and not give in to his tirade, but the "patola" part in me just couldn't let go. It was like a force. I wanted him to understand where I was coming from. I wanted him to apologize for judging me as "maarte." Because as far as I was concerned, I was the one who's in the right.
So, I chose his picture with the best "wagas" pose and commented on it. I wanted him to realize something. Unfortunately, he said he doesn't give me permission to repost his photo because he did not hashtag it. So, if you put a hashtag on a picture, it is LEGAL for another person to repost that picture? Yes, that reason for him was valid. This was a screenshot of my comment:
To put it simply, a hashtag is simply a way for people to search for tweets/photos that have a common topic and to begin a conversation. It still does not give an entity permission to repost your photo just like what The Food Club did to mine. I also saw The Food Club repost a picture with a child on the photo. If they did not ask permission from the parents for reposting this, for me it's exploitation. Using a stolen photo of a child to promote your establishment? That's not a nice business practice!
A photo can depict a lot of things and stolen photos can sometimes bring harm. A lot of times, photos get edited and made into a meme much to the person's embarrassment. It can also be used to steal someone's identity. That was the main reason why I wanted my picture taken down. I did not want my picture be used in any promotion, advertisement, or article without my permission. That's why I do not like the repost apps. Yes, credit is there, but still, it's like broadcasting "I stole this picture from @you."
After his last comment though, I realized, there really are people who cannot get it. People who will always choose to see the bad in you. People who will choose to make you feel worse about yourself. So, I opted to stop giving him what he wants and have the last word. After posting my last comment on his picture (so he can still read it), I blocked him. I also blocked The Food Club. Then I turned my IG into private, even if I didn't want to, because I thought he might have minions that could get into my account and do the same he did to me. I don't want to give them the satisfaction.
After all these, I realized 3 things I should've done instead of giving in and joining the "patola" bandwagon:
1. Ignore the prick.Yes. That was the most sensible thing I could've done. See, if I just ignored his comment, he probably will go on his way, posting selfies on his IG, not giving me the time of day. When I replied to his comment, I made him feel important. I think this is the best way.... treat him with indifference.2. Block the idiot.See number 1. As I am not a celebrity, I don't think he would've come back to my account if I didn't reply to his comment. However, blocking him after giving the last word seems very, very, very satisfying. It's like having the last laugh. Bwahahahaha!3. Replied with "God bless you." or a smiley.God always neutralizes negativity. Happiness is contagious. He might have needed someone to smile at him that day.
I also realized some of my mistakes and weaknesses. I was an arrogant, bitchy, compulsive, grumpy, harsh, impulsive, mean, nasty, overemotional, quarrelsome, ruthless, sarcastic, tactless, unkind, and vengeful person. That's a lot, huh? And those adjectives were in alphabetical order!
He might have been a self-centered ignorant fool, but his comments grounded me. It made me more human. That's why I wanted to write about this experience. I have never received negative comments before, and I want to remember how stupid I was the first time it happened. I want to remember that not everything is about me. Most importantly, I want to remember that we are only human. We can say and do things that we might regret, but the important thing is you learn from it and grow more into a selfless, conscientious, and God-fearing individual.